A Matter Of Choice

There are some things in the world that get under my skin more than others; a woman’s right to choose is one of them. This is actually something I wrote a while back and I wanted to share it here.

It’s as simple as this; if you don’t believe in abortion, then don’t have one. No one’s forcing you to, so why make a big deal out of it? If a woman feels that she needs to get one, then it’s her body and her choice. People want to whine and bitch about how you’re killing a life or taking away the choice of some fetus which doesn’t yet know how to think, but isn’t that essentially what parents do for up to 18 years for their kids when they *choose* to have them? Parents make decisions for their kids all the time; often, they make bad decisions. Think about how many parents drive drunk with their kids in the car, or the parents who beat their children, or the parents who brainwash their kids into thinking that their version of religion is right, everyone else is wrong and that’s all there is to it.

What most people don’t understand is that pro-choice isn’t pro-abortion. Pro-abortion means that you think everyone, with the exception of a few, should have an abortion and that you’d be willing to support laws that stated such. How many pro-choicers actually believe that? Find a few and ask them. You’ll find that most pro-choicers would rather not have an abortion; but it’s not about that. It’s about the right to make that choice for yourself. A woman’s body is her own, and someone (especially a man, who is not capable of any part of the pregnancy/birthing process) shouldn’t be able to make a law saying that she can’t make a decision for herself.

I have found that most pro-lifers don’t look at, or don’t accept, the bigger picture. Most are thinking in the terms of a woman has gotten pregnant (because she’s a “slut”) and has decided to “kill” her “baby.” They don’t consider cases of incest and rape…that doesn’t typically occur to the general population of pro-lifers. But to any parent out there…how would you feel if your 13-year-old daughter was raped by her uncle (or father or brother or any other relative) and became pregnant? Would you want her to have this baby, to have to live with the consequence of an action she had no control over? She would be traumatized enough; even if the intention was to give the baby up for adoption, the whole process of labor could feasibly kill her. Is this what you want? Anyone who has been forced into intercourse should not HAVE to live with the consequences just because a part of the population thinks abortion is a bad idea.

And the old opinion that if you’re old enough to have sex, you’re old enough to deal with the consequences isn’t really true, is it? Think about how many high schoolers and middle schoolers are having sex now. Are these kids really old enough to deal with the emotional baggage sex brings? Doubtful. They’re still kids; they’re not ready to be parents. And I know a hell of a lot of people who had kids in high school, and who now look at their kid/kids and blame the child because the parent was unable to do all the things a high schooler is supposed to do. Jesus, most genuine adults who plan and actually try to have a baby aren’t prepared for the consequences; how could a kid?

Yes; adoption is an option, but there are a LOT of kids waiting for homes, especially because people are looking more and more for designer babies. They have a surrogate or what have you, and have no need for a baby that might have been born addicted to crack.

To all you pro-lifers; how would you feel if you were forced to have an abortion? If giving birth was illegal and every time you became pregnant, you had to have an abortion, how would that feel? To have that decision taken out of your hands? If you really wanted the baby, you’d go into hiding, or take on another name, whatever you had to do to have the child. Have that in mind? Good. Now flip the situation and image how it was for GENERATIONS of women to be forced into giving birth, no matter what the risk to themselves or their bodies. What good does it do the child to be born only to have its mother die at the same time? But even if, god forbid, abortion was made illegal again, it wouldn’t stop. It was illegal up until fairly recently, but it still happened. It would continue; probably in a safer environment, but it would still be covert and potentially dangerous. Not that it’s not dangerous now; crazed pro-lifers will burst into exam rooms & kill the doctor performing the procedure and the patient, therefore killing the fetus they said they wanted to save. Can someone explain that to me, actually? You say abortion is wrong but it’s okay to kill three people (or more, should there be any nurses or staff present) instead?

Do I think abortion should be used as a method of birth control? Absolutely not. It’s much easier (and typically safer) to go on birth control and to use condoms. Not to mention cheaper. So, yes, there needs to be some way to get the women who continue to get pregnant & get an abortion to find another method. HOWEVER, it is still her right to choose. As reprehensible as the abortion as birth control method is, it’s still a choice.


~ by raspychick on December 27, 2011.

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