Exactly how “worse” does it have to be for you to give a shit?

One of my biggest pet peeves are people who say such sage things as, “It could always be worse,” or “No sense in complaining; it won’t change anything.”   Well, I beg to differ.

Absolutely, sometimes when you complain, not a damn thing changes.  But you know what happens when you don’t complain?  Jack shit.  Whether it’s complaining about your job or complaining about some douchebag you know or complaining to customer service, something can actually change, and at least you’ve made the effort.  But if you keep your mouth shut and do nothing, absolutely nothing will change.  Sometimes, you just need to complain about your life.  Sometimes, whining to someone else is all it takes to make you feel better.  There’s nothing wrong with that.  Everyone has gripes; getting them off your chest makes them seem less oppressive, at least for a while.

Hence, why I’ve developed a blog to bitch about all the shit that pisses me off.  Therapy.

But what really gets me…”It cold always be worse.”  Yes, I suppose that in most situations, that is the truth.  “My life sucks, but at least I don’t live in a third-world country.”  If you think in terms like that, however, you’ll make yourself insane.  And the fact that “someone else always has it worse” doesn’t automatically make your troubles insignificant.

I will say, however, if you’re in the class of people who consider “problems” to be daddy getting you a Mercedes instead of a Beamer, then you can go fuck yourself.  I’m sure that may seem like some sort of issue, but come on.

I had a customer at work tell me one of her favorite sayings:  “I was sad that I had no shoes, until I met a man who had no feet.”

Does this somehow make not having shoes better?  Yes; it’s possibly this man  lost his feet to some horrible circumstance; it’s also possible he was born with no feet and has never had need for shoes.  But someone else not having feet doesn’t make your own feet feel any warmer if you’re without shoes.  If you can’t pay a bill this month, knowing that someone else out there can’t pay TWO bills this month doesn’t (at least, it shouldn’t) make your lack of money any better.  Sure, on some level, you’ll probably be grateful that you can pay for the bulk of your shit while some others can’t, but that doesn’t change the fact that you’re low on funds.

Plus, it kind of makes you a dick for feeling smug about your situation when others are struggling.

Anyway, knowing that there are starving children in Africa (and, you know, America) doesn’t mean that your problems aren’t valid.  Shit going on in your life is shit going on in your life.  And people telling you it could always be worse makes you want to stab those people in the jaw, preferably with a dull, rusty instrument.  Personally, knowing it could be worse doesn’t brighten my mood; it makes  feel even shittier because I know it will, inevitably, get worse.

Basically, those people are douchebags, and not the sort you want to confide your troubles to; they’ll come back at you with some story about how someone doesn’t need sunglasses because they have no eyes.


~ by raspychick on December 20, 2011.

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